The Break up

My question is if Ross was wrong in what he did. Rachel obviously was rightful in being mad but did Ross really did anything wrong, both morally and technically.

Well as a woman I think when I hear this my instinct would be to say that Ross was wrong,forget whether morally or technically.But then after I wait till my better sense prevails, it becomes hard to judge this.What would a girl do if she was Racheal? Probably what she did.So technically I mean absolutely technically maybe by the book Ross was right. I mean his girlfriend just broke up with him so he is off the hook to screw around!And he did!So was he wrong. By the book ,NO,he was not.

But he was certainly wrong in expecting Racheal to take him back . There are some things that you just don’t do because it reflects on your sentiments about it. You don’t go around jumping when you have lost someone. You don’t go about celebrating when you just failed an exam. I mean yeah maybe you will, but the point I am trying to make it, when bad things happen to you, you mourn. The way you choose to do it is different. You might project a very happy self to the world and cry your eyes out in the pillow when you are alone or you can be a big cry baby and hug every other person in the road and express you feelings. But you mourn.I am not saying here that you don’t move on, I am saying the enormity of the situation does hit you and you do feel bad about things.And no mourning by sleeping with the hot girl from the copy place is not quite acceptable.More so we as people live by rules, like it or not. Even those which claim to break every rule actually secretly live by rules. Why? Because they give us a semblance of stability. They make everything seem normal and according to a destined plan.

That is why we dont like it when things dont go according to a plan or a rule. And you don’t just sleep with someone the moment you break up with someone else. I mean what does that tell the other person. I would deduce something like spite or just “i am so relieved i am not with you anymore”. Whether you like it or not thats the message you are sending to your spouse.And being drunk certainly is not an excuse. then things would be way too easy.

“Oh,honey sorry I dint come home yesterday, I was so drunk that my secretary and I had a jolly good time”

“Oh dont worry about it , at the party yesterday night i was so clobbered that Jerry from purchase ,I hope it was Jerry from purchase was great”

That is how a typical conversation among couples would be. So I am ruling out the drunken defense.

So you dont just break up with someone and sleep with someone else AND expect your blink-and-she-wont-be-an-ex -anymore ex to take you back. Sorry Ross just does’nt work that way. And I have got to say that more than anything sticking by what he did with the “we were on a break” excuse was even worse and cemented any hopes he had of patching things up with Racheal. Here I agree with Archu’s comment on our previous question post.

So maybe as a concrete answer, even after thinking about it , I would say it was wrong.Definitely wrong if he wanted Racheal to take him back. So I pretty much agree with my instinct. Well that is why i detest way too much logic

Now lets hear from you guys!